It's finally starting to cool down here in the midwest, actually I think according to the media, I'm in the Plains States. It is funny to me to think that Minnesota to Missouri, and Iowa to Ohio are called mid-WEST states, when they aren't west at all. Then I googled "Great Plains States" and they are the Dakotas, on south and west to the Rockies. I don't have a quarrel with the term "plains states", because they have a great many flat places. But to call someting "mid-west" that is east of the middle just doesn't seem right. It just bugs me. Okay, okay, I'll get down off my soap box now and behave myself. I think too many things bug me, or else I just like to sound off to other people and air my knowledge, or just show off. That made me think of this quote from flylady I found a while back.
When you understand that the need to tell someone about yourself is no more than a need for attention, you can start right away to give yourself attention in the form of compassion, understanding, wisdom, guidance and love and the next time you are in a two-way conversation, you'll really listen.
Do I need to tell people everything I know on a subject when it is brought up? No
Do I need to add something to every conversation? No
Do I need to play "one upmanship" at any time in a conversation? No
Do I need to pay attention to the person who is talking and notice what sort of conversation it is before I say anything? Yes
I'm afraid I often say things to get attention, to prove to people that I know things, and that I am there next to them. I also know that people really like to be listened to, and that would be a better place to fill than calling attention to myself.
(Oops, this is nearly a repeat of an earlier post, oh well, this blog is for my own learning and benefit, and it I need it twice...so be it.)
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